Social Systems: Are ways in which we have structured our society to cater to  a specific kind of format for us to run on ;even-though, it may be a unspoken and interpretable format per say. 

First we must understand what kind of systems we are looking at. 

Patriarchy has been founded on the preconcept notion to sex differences at birth and assumed placement in breeding or procreation for future generations, and the assumed placement of a labor source or provider. While this notion has been getting very old by this time, we have let it up hold several households and leave many spending years in emotional aguish over their true wants and the systems' need to stay alive. If men are home bodies who take care of the young, as their female partner have a larger coporate jobs that provide for the family you are actively breaking this norm. However, don't misguide your sense of praise for breaking away from the norm. The praise goes to those who also teach their children not to rely on a specific sex or gender to provide for emotional needs etc. There is a lot in this world that caters to the male ideology, but in many ways it dis-serves the male population the most by inappropriate expectations and emotional strangulation. This does not negate that the tole the Patriarchy has put on AFAB people and/or women is unattainable by most, and has caused death, abuse, and manipulation in the name of gender superiority. Sexual domination has always been apart of this historical fantasy, but the patriarchy uses this assumed domination to abuse and silence women all the time. Rape and abuse culture is an egregous act and it's important that we take the energy to deal with our biggest predators in the community.  

However our systems journey does not lead us just to Patriarchal Systems, but also Racist Systems that futher upheld the white male agenda for power and profits. We saw this throughout the Trans-Alantic Slave Trade, Fugitive Slave Laws, Emancipation Proclamation, and Jim Crow Laws that have only evolved in their ability to access black communities and gerrymander their counties. Racism has many different ways of manifesting itself in the psychology of white individuals. Racism is something every white person faces, because our environment inherently works for us. It makes sure that we are safe; instead of fearing us and therefore endangering us. Racism and Slavery gave white men with power the ability to control and manipulate the ways in which voting and many other forms of freedom were withheld. Black Communities have faced the most extreme of attacks in our nation's history. It's our job as people today to combat our learned racism and other social systems, so that people can be in this place of freedom with the feeling of actually feeling safe, protected, and free to do so as they please (with reason). 

Unlearning Racism is a continuous journey of self-education and community interaction that you hope can help you unlearn the system we all learned as children and young adults. Many of us were not taught strict racism as children, but our elections, media, social platforms, etc., have completely pushed ideals of white men and women. We have a society that has had very low inclusion standards for most modern industries surrounding art and product formation. There are hundreds of products that are never even tested to see if they are positively affective for hair of black communities. While there is a wide gap in the part of the larger population that we serve, we also have a police system with a repetitive nature of being abusive and unnecessary foreful with People of Color and Black community members. Race for a long time has been defined in a similar way to gender, in the way of it being a construct and a way of sectioning groups of people for power redistribution. Race has become a reason for so many to commit murder and abuse People of Color, while skin color has never shown to have any significant differences between groups when it comes to human qualities. However this does not apply to the treatment people recieve today, many medical students are still taught that black patients and patients of color are less likely to feel pain and therefore don't need standard pain relief treatments. We have disparaging numbers when it comes to People of Color getting medical treatment, and the unnecessary complications that occur. Many of these issues can include failure listening to the patient, inadaquate resources to continue treatment on ones own due to social inequities, and the cost of healthcare in the United States of America. 

All of these reasons are just a few reasons why really supporting and discussing unlearning your racist tendencies with others around you. If you feel compelled to ask someone if something would be appropriate before doing so, that may also be able to give you a better guide for your actions. Being in a state of constant learning can be confusing and sometimes what you may learn could seem conflicting, but you will learn the in's and out's as we all go. None of us are perfect, but we can all try our best to be better. 

Check out our page on Allyship and What is an Ally? (AL-I)

First part about being an Ally is getting involved and talking to those you know about support options. Allyship includes radical acceptance of all friends and family members who are experiencing discrimination in any realm of social systems. If you have a friend who is disabled you can help them check entrances and exits to buildings and report them to work,  school, or campus, staff. If you have a friend who is trans, make sure you support them the best you can by reaffirming their gender identity choice and helping them research treatment options. If you happen to support a cause firmly such as unlearning racism, you can commit yourself to doing things for the community as well. There are many ways in which our poorest communities are affected most by these social systems in place in our institutions. Allyship means doing what you can when you can, and educating yourself between those two groups of time. We always want to feel as thought we have it all together, but remind yourself there is always more to learn and understand about those you don't know. Be open about your imperfections when people discuss any criticisms about how you decide to do this journey. Being a solid Ally isn't always easy, but neither is being apart of any of these communities.