Desires/ Motivation
Desires and Motivation
The ways in which we feel desire and motivation is directly connected with our mental health and the ability for us to function in our community. All of us feel ups and downs when it comes to motivation, due to the ways our brain's chemicals play such an important role. We are never in charge of how willing we feel to do something or plan for an event. There are many ways that our desire and motivation play key parts in our daily lives. Dealing with mental health conditions can make regulating desires and motivation much harder. There are ways that we can prepare and be supportive for those around us as their motivations or desires fluctuate. We can always we more open and understanding.
Motivation
Motivation is our willingness or energy we have to do something. This can include minor day to day tasks. Sometimes motivation for living and doing daily tasks can get hard and it's not easy for everyone. When we garner motivation for projects, business ideas, or new hobbies, we have a lot of momentum going in, but it can be hard to keep it gong.
We can do our best to help other people garner motivation by setting up study or reading groups, co-working spaces, where even if seperated- group work- is being used to continue human cultivation and motivation.
Motivation can also be the ability someone has, and not just their willingness. Not everyone has the ability to garner their own motivation daily and assuming a person is able when they aren't, is a form of ableism.
Desires
Desires are typically used to talk about things that we hope to achieve, or wish to have. Desires can be discussing a person, place, state of being, etc. There are all kinds of desires as well, as we get older we may experience sexual desires, or romantic desires. We may have desires, but it doesn't mean they have to come true. When you are having desires of any kind, it can be important to center these desires in reality, so they are more achievable. It's our job to make sure that no matter what our desire is or how strong it may be, that we don't negatively impact the environment and people around us. Sometimes we have to make sure that our peers and friends are also being appropriate about their desires.
Desires can be strong, if you feel you may need more information, seeking professional mental health care, can always be beneficial.
The Three Motivators:
Money
In our day and age, money is a vital piece of our everyday lives. Unfortunately, a system that was originally made to make sure that all people were putting in their effort for the community, has turned into a profiteering expedition that kills people.
Money has never been a natural motivator, but because it determines our access to food/water and relationships with others.
Many people believe money doesn't effect their relationships, but not typically upheld when tested due to our societal constraints.
Food/Water
Food is a natural motivator, it has stayed with us our entire evolution; because we need food to live. Food and water are such neccessary pieces of continuing the life of humanity, that people will do almost anything to get it. Not having access to food or water can cause psychosis and other mental health conditions, in times of abuse or distress.
This includes causing people to steal items like food and water, as it is a non-violent crime that provides for the family or person.
Relationships
Believe it or not relationships with the people around you, is typically a huge motivator. In more recent years we have been understanding more about social needs and social anxiety. Even our social anxiety comes from the want to impress those around us. Being apart of our larger group is a very important part of our placement in society.
Whether its having a job, participating in community service, religious community services, etc., you are probably doing your best to connect with the people in your community.
Medications and Drugs:
Medications and Drugs are also an example of un-natural motivators, since we have not always had access to medicines. However, as many know, drugs and medications are often a large motivator for stealing, insurance fraud, drug use, etc. This is not in anyway meant to insinuate that having drugs and medications are bad for your health; however its important to remember the need for the medications as real. When the need for a medication is challenged, sometimes people are forced into other pharmacological decisions or they are faced with buying the drugs somewhere where it's not regulated. This medication and monitary system has caused millions of deaths; but the fact that it's a business makes it legal. Medications and Medical Health Care should never be a monitary issues, and makes it inaccessible for historically Black, Hispanic, Indigenous, LGBTQIA, and Disabled communities.
Sexual Desires are not always up to us, sometimes our body can make decisions about the ways in which we feel. This however, does not take precident over consent and other measures we use to protect ourselves and other's from harm. Even when we think we may be in the mood, it doesn't mean we won't change our minds about the sexual actions we are willing to participate in. Of course when it does come to expressing these emotions, there are ways to do so, in which you don't like inappropriately. Making sure we are good at communication and open to discussion on anything we may be expressing in the moment. There are parts of sexuality and sex, that need effective communication to make anyone's desires take place. It's important to also take into account the desires of the people you may be sexually active with. There is no good sexual interactions if you are not prioritizing your partner's pleasure. Sometimes we have to talk about how romantic relationships can exist without constant sexual interactions. In fact a sexual relationship doesn't have to exist at all for some couples to be happy and supportive of one another.
It's important to always prioritize the comfortability of all parties active in any sexual interaction. You want to make sure that the people around you are treating you and your body with the respect you need. We want to make sure that everyone is prepared to have consensual and respectful activities, instead of worrying about the act of sex itself.