Creating community usually centers around a few different areas of the people with in it. You have to make sure that your community, when it comes together, is taking the time to recognize all of its members identities. You should make sure that everyone feels supported and uplifted in their community, but with the same autonomy over themselves as we all hope for in life. There shouldn't be any non-moral themes of identity that exclude the people around you. You should find activities that allow you all to recall what you agree on most and what you desire from the community. 

You want to make sure that all of the perspectives (people) you have in one place, are used together to form educated opinions. -This can get tricky- because a lot of the time when we as humans converse about critizism, we are unable to seperate it from how we view eachother. All of us have made decisions or been in situations where we learned something out of necessity, for our vital (communication/understanding) mistakes. We have to have patience and mercy with one another when forming an understanding of where each of us are. No matter how mature you get, no matter how wise you may seem, we all have our faults with communication. 

We are NOT saying that you should welcome violence, extremism, or inappropriate behavior from people who want to be apart of your trusted community. However, we do recognize that a lot of the way people behave is due to the life they are experiencing or have experienced, and for many some kindness from an unlikely source is all they need to realize their misactions. Of course if people are being manipulative, gaslightory, or hurting people (or you) you have every right to call out those actions directly to the person, if it is a safe option.