Sexual Violence
Disclaimer:
This page includes written definitions of many words and experiences that can be traumatizing for some, and should be read with caution. These crimes are not to be taken lightly, and should be talked about with the utmost respect for victims.
What is Sexual Violence?
Sexual Violence is a form of violence and/or possible continued violence that is done by assaulting someone verbally, electronically, physically, mentally, etc. When talking about sexual violence we want to be clear that all sexual violence is terrifying for those experiencing it, and it is not our place to decide how someone should handle their assault. Sexual violence can occur regardless of relationship status, and consent is still needed continuously through any sexual activity to not turn into a manipulated sexual experience.
Disclaimer:
Sexual violence experiences are never smaller or bigger than another, and for each person will be different and handled in their own way. It's important that while reading this page you keep in mind the horrifying fear that people experience going through these crimes and how that can impact someone. Just because some forms of this harassment are not fatal, do not negate the trauma that someone experiences.
Unwanted Sexual Advances:
Unwanted Sexual Advance are hard to categorize for some folks, but its important to us to acknowledge that once your lack of consent has been communicated, there is nothing that should compel a person to continue to seek sexual advances with you. While we believe consent should be the forefront of all sexual advances, we know that is not always the case. Make if you ever encounter something like this that you notify the other people around you of the consistent harassment.
If you are at work notify your Human Resources Department or other trustable managers; and decide if you would be willing to return to your job in-person until it is properly handled.
Manipulation:
Manipulation of circumstances surronding someones actions can be a form of sexual violence that is often overlooked. Manipulation can look like refusing to wear a condom, or discussing recent STD testing results. Manipulation can look like discussing what you're wearing or how you present yourself as a reason for unconsensual sexual advances. Manipulation can also be how someone treats you at different times or differences phases of yourself. We want to make sure that we include manipulation as a form of sexual violence to call out how it assists in the other forms of sexual violence one may experience.
Molestation:
Molestation is a form of sexual violence where there is touching involved with the sexual harassment, this can include penetration, but often includes the following (but is not limited to): grabbing/slapping/touching someones butt, touching someone inappropriately in anyway, touching someones breasts, and touching someones penis. Often times predators will try to privatize and sexualize the environment by separating the molestation from the public. This form of sexual violence is often experience by minors, and should be discussed with parents once they are able to grasp that information.
Sexual Harassment:
Sexual Harassment is a term for that can spread many different types of unwanted sexual advancements. These can be experienced with people around or not, and often go unnoticed because of the fear and inaccessibility to justice in these situations. If you are in an environment where an employee or Human Resources Dept. can help you we urge you to report any unwanted advances that constitute harassment. If you believe your safety is at risk the best thing you can do is inform the people around you and talk with a police department or lawyer if you are comfortable doing so.
Rape:
Rape is an unconsenual sex activity, that typically includes "forced penetration" this can be with genitalia or other objects. Rape can occur to men, women, and nonbinary people; however, an overwhelming majority of this crime is committed against to people assigned female at birth. There is no reason to allow rape to go unnoticed or kept quiet; of course, we understand that reporting may not always be an option for people. We want to make sure that we consider rape and other sexual misconduct to be taken seriously and publicly as to shed light on the often occurrence of these crimes. *If you believe a rape has occured to you we urge you to talk to a person or entity that can support you and take action with you against your perpetrator.*
Stalking:
Stalking is a form of harassment that includes following, inference, and typically a form of harm (mentally, physically, sexually, etc.). Stalking can also be done online, and in person. Sexual Harassment often including stalking as well, which can be a beginning sign of a possible assault and should be taken seriously. We know that our police systems often aren't able to provide adequate protection for individuals affected by stalking. Stalking can also be done by the people we know: friends, family members, and community members. Contact a entity or police station that you trust if you believe you are in danger of stalking.
Sex Crimes Involving Children:
When it comes to sex crimes involving children, we should never have a joke or lack of seriousness on the topic. Many parents are in disbelief when they are first encountering the news of their child having been sexually assaulted. It can be hard for these conversations to be had, especially when the openness of discussing these topics was not already present. We urge all parents to begin talking to their children about their body parts as early as they can grasp it; from there we believe it's up to a parent (but is still vital) to decide how to explain different types of assault to their children. Our children deserve to know everything there is to know the good and the bad, so that they can be better prepared to handle it as they experience life and grow. We know these conversations can be tough and for any parent who is or has experienced this heartbreaking crime with their child, we hope to only continue to provide more resources.
Cordisco and Saile LLC. has put together this guide dedicated to fostering awareness, education, and action towards the prevention of child abuse. In a world where the safety and well-being of our children should be paramount, it's crucial to engage in open discussions, share knowledge, and collectively work towards creating environments where every child can thrive. Here is the link: https://www.cordiscosaile.com/navigating-child-sex-abuse/
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If you would like to help us write about commonly silenced areas or personal experiences you may have with these topics, contact us at thisisactivism2023@gmail.com or fill out our Comments page. We want our website to be a continuous growth of knowlegde to share with each other in a positive way. There are so many things we don't talk about and we should!
The website above was provided by a person emailing us directly, it has a fully comprehensive directory to all of the Women and Children's Domestic Violence Shelters in the world, and links on where to find them. We are grateful that resources like this exist, but we also acknowledge that the oppressions and accessibility to these resources is directly what impacts someone's ability to be able to get any help at all.
Introduction on website:
"Domestic violence exploded during the first two months of the COVID-19 outbreak. In the U.S., there was a 30% increase in spousal/partner abuse towards women, and the U.K. saw a similar increase as well – 25%. Similarly,there has been an uptick in violence against men and the elderly, with financial strain caused by the pandemic being noted as the main stressor in domestic situations. Still, there is no updated, comprehensive resource that tells you where to go if you are suffering such horrible violence, or know someone who is a victim."